What’s More Important?

August 23, 2010 by · 1 Comment
Filed under: Biblical Teachings, Godly Principles, Single & Saved 

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Recently, I found myself in a situation that was totally new and different from anything I have encountered.  Being a Christian isn’t always easy, but it’s something I’ve dedicated my life to doing.   Who knew something as simple as a “religious status” on a Facebook page would deter someone from dating me?

About a month ago I attended a friend’s birthday party where I met a guy.  It’s been a little over a year since my last relationship and I have been in prayer since.  I’ve prayed to work on myself and prayed to attract the “right” man.  And it seemed to be working.  I’ve learned a lot about myself and changed a lot of things in the process.  So this guy and I had great conversation.  Amazing conversation.  He’s extremely intelligent.  He holds a masters in English.  He was a professor of English at ODU.  And he’s only 28.  It seems rare nowadays to meet someone who’s so gifted and truly a gentleman.  But I didn’t pursue it.

So the next day he asks my friend if he could have my number.  Sitting under the leadership of Bishop Kim Brown I’ve learned a lot about living single and holy.  And I did not give him my number.  We needed to get together in a group setting again before that happened.  So we became Facebook friends.

Well low and behold a few days later my friend informs me that he says we’re incompatible.  I asked what happened.  She explains that he questioned my religious status on my Facebook page (for the record it reads: The Lord is my strength, my redeemer, my everything).  Once he saw that – he backed down.  And I came to find out that he’s an atheist. ” Wow,” you’re saying.  I said the same thing.  Yes, there are intelligent people out there who want nothing to do with God.

I was little taken aback by his abrupt “non-interest,” but I knew there was no contest.  I had never experienced rejection because of my relationship with God.  This experience opened my eyes and also made me realize how strong my relationship with God is.  It is so strong that I’m not willing to sacrifice my relationship with God over a man just because I want to be with someone.  One of the main things that many Christian singles fail to realize is that you will never meet “the one” until you build a solid foundation with God.  And you will not be able to see the “pretenders” without a strong relationship with God.

“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will know what God wants you to do, and you will know how good and pleasing and perfect his will really is.” – Romans 12:2

Display your love for God and don’t be ashamed of the Gospel.  You will reap the benefits of your patience.

“So don’t get tired of doing what is good.  Don’t get discouraged and give up, for we will reap a harvest of blessing at the appropriate time.” – Galatians 5:9

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Finding The One

January 19, 2010 by · Leave a Comment
Filed under: Healing, Inspirational Articles, Single & Saved 

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I’m at a point in my life where I’m very comfortable being single.  Being single and saved does take work, but you can do it!  So often, women get caught up in the idea of having a man.  Ever heard this one:  ‘Any man is better than no man,’?  Society has pushed the focus on being “boo-ed up”.  Take Hollywood for example, it’s as if every woman has to have a man by her side and vice versa.  Now this is not to say that some relationships aren’t genuine, but those which are tend to be few and far between.

So why is the divorce rate so high in the world and shockingly even higher in the Kingdom?  Because people are finding who they think is ‘the one’ before they’ve found “The One”.  In reality, many of these relationships end in failure because they weren’t led by God.

“Those who belong to Christ Jesus have nailed the passions and desires of their sinful nature to His cross and crucified them there.  If we are living now by the Holy Spirit, let us follow the Holy Spirit’s leading in every part of our lives.” – Galatians 5:24-25

So in essence, if we allow the Holy Spirit (The One) to guide our lives, including relationships, then we shall be connected with the one.  Remember, the Lord desires for us to be happy, but true joy comes in seeking Him first.

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There’s No Better Teacher Than Experience

January 9, 2010 by · 1 Comment
Filed under: Deliverance, Godly Principles, Healing, Single & Saved, Testimonies 

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A few years ago I broke up with my boyfriend of three years.  We began dating my senior year of college and things had become quite serious rather early on.  However, it turned into a rocky relationship to say the least.  We argued and argued and argued.  All the time.  He cheated on me during the first year, and yet I stayed with him.  I had always said that if I were in a relationship and someone cheated that I would leave.  Not the case here.  My self-esteem was at an all time low.  Now don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t perfect in the relationship either, but no woman deserves to be treated as I was.

We talked about marriage often.  In my mind, this was the man I was going to marry.  So then why did I hurt all of the time?  Why did I feel so empty?  After graduation I started attending services at Mt. Lebanon Missionary Baptist Church because at the time I was living with my cousin and she was a member.  I began sitting under the leadership of a man who once had self-esteem issues.  A man who was involved in bad relationships.  A man who prevailed through God’s grace and is now stronger than ever because he trusted God.  I learned that God is our ultimate Creator and if we can’t trust Him, then who can we trust.  The Word says:

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding.  Seek His will in all you do, and He will direct your paths.” – Proverbs 3:5-6

I hit a turning point.  It was as if I had hit rock bottom and there was nowhere else to go.  I began to climb upward.  I sat under my spiritual father who constantly taught that we were all created in God’s image.  And that He has a plan for all of our lives.  I was important!  My self-esteem grew and I began to apply God’s teachings to my life:

“No one will be able to stand their ground against you as long as you live.  For I will be with you as I was with Moses.  I will not fail or abandon you.” – Joshua 1:5

I knew now that I didn’t need to be in a relationship.  I could live my life trusting in God, and God alone:

“Now glory be to God! By His mighty power at work within us, He is able to accomplish infinitely more than we would ever dare to ask or hope.” – Ephesians 3:20

On Christmas Day, 2007 I broke up with my boyfriend.  I had never felt so free in all of my life.  Six months later, I met a young woman who had recently relocated to Virginia from Las Vegas.  My family sort of “adopted” her because she didn’t know anyone out here besides people through work.  We started to form a friendship and began sharing our stories.  As it turned out, she had just ended a relationship with someone who had been holding her back from truly being the woman that God had called her to be.  It all started to come together.  I realized that God took me through my experience for a reason.  It all made sense.  I would have never been able to minister to my friend had I not experienced and LEARNED from my situation.  Now we stand, two strong, beautiful women working with a purpose.  In the end, God’s plan is perfect – and it will always prevail.

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